RCVRY Life Is the passion and inspiration of Matt McCoy, our founder. Matt is himself a recovering alcoholic, something he is both proud of and grateful for.
Below, Matt explains his story :
Thanks for taking the time to read about me – on a lot of websites, these pages are deeply impersonal and give you little more than what the company does as a service and maybe a way to contact them.
Well I’m going to a go little ( lot! ) deeper than that. Because you’ve taken the time to read about me, I’ll share with you my story and why I decided to launch RCVRY Life.
Whenever I share my journey, it’s always a challenge to disseminate it down into a narrative that is digestible and covers all the main points. I guess the biggest issue to achieving this is the journey has lasted 27 years, and of that 27 years, a vast majority were spent as an active alcoholic, both functioning ( for a long period of time ) and eventually as a completely non functioning and what I can only describe now as chaotic and tragic alcoholic.
Throughout that 27 years ( and to save you trying to work it out – at time of writing I’m 41 now ) I have suffered, endured and even embraced a range of conditions, the headliners being :
- Weight ( obesity )
With these, there are a number of spin offs, but these were the blockbuster movies that pretty much ruled my life, and with no exaggeration, I can genuinely tell you, bought me to my knees.
At my lowest point(s), I definitely contemplated suicide, and even regretted the fact that I didn’t have the courage to see that through. That’s how low I was and how afflicted I was by these various conditions. The common denominator throughout, for me, was alcohol. Completely blinded by the obvious fact that alcohol and addiction were the root cause, my answer to everything was to have a few drinks and alleviate the pain, mental and physical, that I was feeling.
I had sought help for all of the issues over the years, and with each new “solution”, I became optimistic that finally I would be free of the shackles that each condition held me under, but a common theme kept recurring – simply nothing worked for any consistent amount of time.
If I managed to lose weight, within 3 months time it was back on or I was even heavier.
If I found a system that alleviated my anxiety, something, in hindsight very minor, would bring it crashing back over me and causing me to dread the simplest of everyday activities.
If my depression lifted, it would invariably be in the form of medication, and therefore had side effects, and as soon as I started to wean myself off the medication, the awful energy sapping, life numbing grey feeling that only someone with depression could recognise, would creep back into my very soul.
Saving perhaps the best to last, if I had ever tried seriously to tackle my alcoholism and addiction issues, it was only ever paying them the merest of lip service. You see, so ingrained and so consumed was I by addiction, it actually became more of me than I am myself. At my lowest point – my rock bottom – I genuinely couldn’t see a future where I could survive without alcohol. Life just didn’t seem worth living either way.
The problem was, I always saw each issue as a problem on its own. And I always tried to solve or cure each issue in that context. Whatever remedy I was trying to apply would be for one issue, and the remedy itself would be just one avenue. I had never contemplated that they could all be interlinked and that the solution would therefore need to be the application of more than one thing.
I could write another 20,000 words on those years as a sufferer – what I felt, what I endured, the pain I caused myself, the pain I caused others – but lets just say my life certainly wasn’t optimal, and I definitely wasn’t the best I could be.
Lets pick up on where the journey to recovery started.
I spent literally the last money I had on taking myself off to a residential rehab centre to tackle my alcoholism and addiction issues.
It wasn’t easy, but it was the turning point. For the 1st time in 25 years I spent more than one day clean and sober, and so gradually, the fog that alcoholism brings to the mind started to lift, and I began to learn what it took to recover and stay “dry”.
I learnt many very important lessons, but perhaps the biggest one that has brought me to where I am today, is that everything we do is connected. If we are in a downward spiral, vis a vis all the conditions above, they feed off each other like parasites.
You might feel overweight and unhappy with yourself, but a few drinks numbs those negative thoughts and brings fleeting reprieve, but guess what, the alcohol puts more weight on – rinse and repeat until you slip into a depression over the whole issue. Then you’re overweight, drinking every day, feeling depressed, not sleeping well because your body is in a bad way and that close relative of depression, anxiety starts to feed into every part of your sober life – so you drink more…. So on and so forth.
Once out of rehab and consumed by a new and positive energy, I became motivated to learn more and more about how different things effect our behaviour and wellbeing in different ways.
The link between the type of food we eat and our energy levels and weight gain and loss. How chakras can become blocked and the impact it can have on different areas of life. How our environment around us can make us feel without us even realising it. Why having a reason to get out of bed every morning is so important.
From all of this information, I began to create a program for myself to enable a long term, sustainable recovery. But not just a way to stay clean and sober, but a program that would enable me to actually grow as a person and realise my full potential.
Over time, i refined the program until eventually it became 5 key elements and RCVRY was born. As I began to help other people use the 5 elements for their own recovery and wellbeing, I applied more and more learnings to the program – but always keeping to the five fundamental elements.
I learned that everyone is different and their journey is unique – but the 5 elements were relevant for everyone – just in different measures. So for someone, a physical program might be a bulk of what they needed – getting the right diet and exercise could really help them, supported by the other 4 elements. For someone else, they might already have a lot of that side of things sorted, so they needed more focus on their spiritual and environment.
The point was, this is not a one size fits all program, but it is a one structure works for all program.
The other fundamental learning I gained was that ALL 5 elements are imperative for this program to work. If you drop one or more, the others weaken. It’s a structure, and like any good structure, it works through good foundations – the foundations here are the 5 elements.
So here I am today, sober, clean and feeling the best I have ever felt. I am a different person to the one I was while an active alcoholic. Life is definitely worth living.